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Self-confidence is one attribute every person should have in order for him or her to assert himself or herself. Many kids and even adults suffer from lack of confidence.
There
are people who lack the ability to make strong decisions in life.
Others are unsociable and are almost left alone often, while still
others are too reliant on outside opinions and lose the independence of
decision making. All these result from a lack of self-confidence.
That is why some parents of children who are exhibiting signs of lack of confidence are taking the problem very seriously. They immediately send the child to a therapy or to a behavioral treatment program.
Self-confidence
is a really important for everyone, and lacking it should be treated as
a serious problem. A person's future and career certainly depends on
whether that person has trait of self-confidence in how they present
themselves and solve problems.
Starting to build self-confidence:
People
are not born with self-confidence. That trait is developed as a person
learns more about the world from infancy to childhood to adulthood.
Remember, without confidence, you would not have been able to learn how
to walk, talk or do other necessary activities.
People
with good self-confidence are those who have a belief that everything
in life is achievable if there is proper motivation. Usually, these
people are those with positive and cheerful disposition in life. Some
observations also indicate that those lacking self-confidence are
usually those who have experienced sad or traumatic events in the past. A
dysfunctional family life in childhood can fail to provide the modeling needed for a child to emulate.
A
simple disappointment can be considered a major event in a child's
life, especially if the ill feelings that came along it were not
properly addressed. Thus, simple embarrassment can be a major and
serious cause of lack of self-confidence in a person. Shame can easily
develop.
To start building
up self-confidence, it is advised that the person gain and have a
positive outlook about life. He should be cheerful and fun-loving and
must have a good outlook.
Tips on gaining self-confidence:
Through the years, behaviorists and experts have been sharing
some basic and helpful secrets that surely and effectively help people
gain and develop self-confidence. Here are some of those simple tips:
Just feel good.
People
with confidence are usually those who feel good about themselves. If
you feel good about yourself, confidence is a natural occurrence. It
makes it easy to talk the talk and walk the walk.
If
you find it hard to feel good, there is a simple tip to help you out.
Think of good and fun memories, think of a fun activity, or think of a
person who really makes you feel happy. Redirect your thinking and use
some positive self talk, Some experts advise that thinking of a
favorite celebrity or an idol could also help build good confidence and
disposition.
Overcome self-consciousness.
The
most potent factor in sustaining lack of self-confidence and staying
stuck is self-consciousness. Why do people not feel good about
themselves? Because they think they are inferior to other people. When
people think they are ugly or are less desirable, they start opting to
withdraw. When we judge others with our own yardstick we often come up
short. Why? Because we are our own harshest critic.
Another
tip is to think of other people and how they get things done, then
motivate yourself to doing the same. If you want to be a millionaire do
what millionaires do.
Keeping busy and productive
helps. Remember, idle minds are the workshops of the devil. If you are
too bored because you don't have much to do, chances are that you would
start noticing yourself and then develop a sense of self-pity and
affliction.
Don't criticize yourself.
Criticisms
surely are constructive, but often when they come from yourself, they
have adverse effects. Self-criticism could lead to too much focus on
self and eventually, to the feeling of inferiority, which could lead
ultimately to lack of self-confidence.
Lastly, the most effective
secret to building up a firm self-confidence is a belief in self, and
motivation to succeed. If you keep on comparing yourself to others, you
would certainly end up feeling less confident, so stop the habit and
focus on the things you can accomplish, and then just do it.
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